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I used to think that I am not getting that next big break, job, pay hike, promotion, marks, girl or guy, or may be friend for a reason, very particular to myself. I attributed all this to my not being capable enough, not good looking enough, not smart enough, not confident enough and most importantly, not lucky enough. These biased thoughts made me very sad, both internally (As I started hating being in company of others) and externally (when my wife and colleagues started noticing my grim attitude). In due course, I realized that this mental state is affecting nothing but my confidence. Obviously, it was the worst way to behave.

But the below wisdom stuck me hard at the right nerve at the right time (I believe there is none) and changed some neural connections in my brain for good-

"Once you stop looking for External Validations, you truly start to become happy". 

 Happiness is never external, its all inside.

This had a profound effect on me as I have never looked at the things from this perspective. It affected me in two ways. First, it led me to drop all the mediums of validation immediately like FB, Instagram, and LinkedIn (Yes, where you wish birthdays, job anniversaries, see your friends switch jobs and live in anxiety that some HR/CXO view your profile). Second, it left me with immense time to focus on things I genuinely cared and loved.

I am much more bearable now and feel genuine happiness.

Today, I found a short beautiful film that again hit the same nerve and made me question my priorities in life. Journey well!


Do let me know your views.

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